View Full Version : just to vent off some emotional pain
I just needed to get something out, ask for some advice too.
Basically my GF of 4 1/2 years split with me the night before going to uni, since then the amount of pain i have been in is just more than i could wish upon anyone. I can't seem to do anything at the moment and i am putting on a happy face in public but i just feel so torn and empty.
How am i meant to get over this or move on if thats the case when i so do not want to. I would have done anything for her and it is so painful not knowing what i have done or where i went wrong.
I won't go completly into how i am feeling because its not the place to do so but if anyone has any advice on how to stop feeling like this because at the moment i really would rather not be alive to stop the pain.
hudsonbeck
12-10-04, 20:33
Damn... Sorry to hear that, its a bad place to be...
My only advice would be that it takes time. Grieving is a process and although at times, like now, it seems unbearable, it will get better.. I promise you that.
In my life I have learned a couple things and one of them is that everything happens for a reason. Hopefully in time you will understand why this happened... maybe you two will get back together, may be not, but later on down the road, you will look back and understand.
Another thing I have learned is that, no matter how bad things seem, they will get better. Life sucks ass sometimes and there is nothing we can do to avoid that part, we just have to get through those times and enjoy the good when we can.
I hope you don’t take too long to start to feel better. I know sometimes it does help to go out with old close friends even if you really don’t feel like it at the time...
Hudson
THE_TICK!!!!
12-10-04, 20:39
DAMN bro sorry to hear your pain...well its probly happend to all of us one time..the only way i could deal with it..is i buried myself in my work..do you have a hobby or work or something to stick your head into...do so if ya can m8..it helps...a little..........
I've just started Uni so that should take my mind off things. It just isn't though and at present i am more going towards jacking uni in completly.
I know it is now permanent as i have just had it told to me on a letter in a birthday card. I thought i would have at least deservered to be told face to face.
THE_TICK!!!!
13-10-04, 17:03
sorry to hear that d00d...but you will find yourself a G00D one we all do. go to a strip club that works too
Loads of alcohol, that's the best thing :D
just stop worrying about it so much dude, you'll probably hurt for the next 4-5 years or something like that, but not as much as you do now, you should also consider going out, finding a really nice girl who's like really nice, and a virgin too, and is like all sweet and innocent and stuff like that, then have your wicked way with her before dumping her to the kerb in a really mean way kinda thing (ya know, just use her for sex, then dump her) that will make you feel a lot better in yourself (dont worry about the girl's feelings, they dont matter). Porn and strip clubs will also make you :D
Then remember the important things:
Women are inherently evil, they are the spawn of satan
University is full of chicks who want nothing more than "friendship with perks" if you get what I mean (if you dont, you will)
University is also full of chicks who might be deemed "Slappers" which is also a very good thing!
And finally:
Remember, its her loss not yours <3
Also remember that girls like to be told what they want to hear, not what is actually true (like "ohh your really pretty" and stuff like that), so lie to them lots and you'll soon have some really hot totty (and maybe a STD but most can be cured these days :D)
[TgR]KILLER
13-10-04, 17:18
in all years i found the best way to forget about girls.. launch UT and go frag a heap :X don't launch nc and try to frag cause you'll get killed or spend hours trying to find somebody to kill and end up killing allies and getting your char fucked.
good old UT99 solves all ^^
sanityislost
13-10-04, 18:19
damn that kinda sucks dude, lol come up to scotland and will buy ya a pint :D
SiL ..:..
Jesterthegreat
13-10-04, 18:24
sucks when it happens... tbh i find it best to go out with mates etc. you will feel shitty at first but you gotta get your mind off it.
but itl prolly take awjile before you will want to do that
NS_CHROME54
13-10-04, 18:27
go into every CS server you can, and get yourself banned for team killing in every single one. Make it so before your team is out of their spawn point's general area, they're already dead by your trigger finger. Go on a rampage. That should satisfy you for a little while.
Jesterthegreat
13-10-04, 18:31
go into every CS server you can, and get yourself banned for team killing in every single one. Make it so before your team is out of their spawn point's general area, they're already dead by your trigger finger. Go on a rampage. That should satisfy you for a little while.
hahahaha... i love pointless violence when im feeling down.
however choose a game your real good at. nothing will piss you off more than fucking up in a game when your in a bad mood already
NS_CHROME54
13-10-04, 18:38
yeah but why would you wanna get yourself fucked up with server bans in a game you're already good at? and notice i chose CS? *hint hint*
so yeah just grab a noobstick and go on a spree.
Jesterthegreat
13-10-04, 18:49
yeah but why would you wanna get yourself fucked up with server bans in a game you're already good at? and notice i chose CS? *hint hint*
so yeah just grab a noobstick and go on a spree.
there tends to be plenty of servers for most FPS's :)
tbh go to an internet cafe / gaming cafe and play a game your good at. get them banned.
me and a mate got 2 computers banned from a proper TFC server cos we killed the entire team in less than 2 minutes (gotta love medics infections :)) we were accused of cheating and promtly kicked. of course the best bit is that some noob in the cafe was sitting next to us and was on the same server. he saw we didnt cheat, but he was doing so shit he wasnt kicked haha
NS_CHROME54
13-10-04, 19:13
there tends to be plenty of servers for most FPS's :)
tbh go to an internet cafe / gaming cafe and play a game your good at. get them banned.
me and a mate got 2 computers banned from a proper TFC server cos we killed the entire team in less than 2 minutes (gotta love medics infections :)) we were accused of cheating and promtly kicked. of course the best bit is that some noob in the cafe was sitting next to us and was on the same server. he saw we didnt cheat, but he was doing so shit he wasnt kicked haha
LOL that's a good idea, i should try it sometime
damn that kinda sucks dude, lol come up to scotland and will buy ya a pint :D
SiL ..:..
ok then!! or did you just mean gary? i'm gunna have to get a gf for free beer I think >.<
You just gotta drill it into your head, that you can be happy and relaxed with or without women, and what she choses to do can only affect you if you let it. I know it sounds weird, but I believe if you have enough sheer will power you can overcome anything. Failing that, do something productive to take your mind of it, work or hobby or whatever.
I split with my GF of 6 months on monday and I'm pretty upset, 4.5 years? damn... :(
just stop worrying about it so much dude, you'll probably hurt for the next 4-5 years or something like that, but not as much as you do now, you should also consider going out, finding a really nice girl who's like really nice, and a virgin too, and is like all sweet and innocent and stuff like that, then have your wicked way with her before dumping her to the kerb in a really mean way kinda thing (ya know, just use her for sex, then dump her) that will make you feel a lot better in yourself (dont worry about the girl's feelings, they dont matter).
I want to hear you say you where joking, and I want to here it now dude.
Jesterthegreat
14-10-04, 09:51
I want to hear you say you where joking, and I want to here it now dude.
never take lexx seriously :p
Bugs Gunny
14-10-04, 10:12
Here's my story:
Wife left me for a good friend when my twin daughters were 1y old.
We aggreed upon joint custody, meaning i get them one week , ex has the the other week.
I have been grieving for two months, then i started partying my head off.
I've met so many girls in one year, had a great time, had more sex than all the years before :-) and still had an "empty" feeling.
Then one day i meet up with a gf of 12 years ago (when i was 17). We started talking, hit it off again, one week later she moves in. Has been better than anything in my life, she's extremely good looking, funny, intelligent, great to my kids etc.....
If i had to do it all over again, i'd be the one leaving my ex :-)
Just take a bit of time to get things straight in your head, don't go closing yourself off, then go party like there's no tomorrow, then relax a bit when you get bored of it and meet up with "normal" people again.
I want to hear you say you where joking, and I want to here it now dude.
no way man, best way to feel good about yourself, is to make someone else miserable, though that usually includes getting married to them, but the short term objective is to get as much totty as possible!
Being single and in Uni = god send!
THE_TICK!!!!
14-10-04, 13:17
Lex you got issues d00d...lots and lots of ISSUES :wtf:
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Lexxuk, you're just sick man :lol:
Bugs Gunny
14-10-04, 13:29
No, Lexy San is you grasshopper still, he must learn.
Wisdom comes with age.
when my wife left me i found shagging her sister worked for me
revenge is oh so sweet
NS_CHROME54
14-10-04, 18:20
whatever. always been single. know not the pain and agony of heartbreak.
:p
Lex you got issues d00d...lots and lots of ISSUES :wtf:
like Kleenex ones? :confused:
THE_TICK!!!!
14-10-04, 20:50
lol issues man issues...not tissues :D
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